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April 29, 1968 – Sunday, April 17, 2011

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In loving memory of Wendykay Osell
April 29, 1968 – Sunday, April 17, 2011

Wendykay O’sell, age 42, died unexpectedly at her home in Monticello, MN on Sunday.

She was born in Walla Walla, WA. to Arlene “Cochran” Shively and Jem Cochran II.
Wendykay attended school in Colorado, Oregon and Germany. She was employed as a medical office manager where she helped many people. Wendykay was the most wonderful wife, mother and daughter. Her smile would light up a room. She loved making her intricate embroidery work, working in her gardening and playing multiplayer online games with her husband and kids. Wendykay was very proud of her Irish heritage and she researched it extensively.

Wendykay is preceded in death by her grandparents, Ben and Agnes Sutton, Jim and Carman Kuykendahl; in-laws Lawrence and Jeanette Osell; great grandparents, Herman and Matte Cochran.

Wendykay is survived by her loving husband of twenty two years Jarvis Osell; their three sons, James, Joshua and Liam; parents; her step-father Alan Shively who she thought of as her real father; step-mother, Cecelia Cochran; brother, Jem E (Amy) Cochran III; step-brother, Skylar (Jennifer) Cochran; step-sister, Jennifer Strong; half-sister, Kirsten (Lazrre) Quiantana; sister-in-law Lanette Osell; grandfather, Jem E (Patti) Cochran; numerous aunts, uncles, cousins, nieces, nephews and a multitude of friends.

Memorial service arrangements are pending. The family is being assisted by the Peterson Funeral Chapel in Buffalo.

9 Guestbook Entries

  1. Jarvis Osell

    Wendykay has gone to heaven because she was too kind and special for this world. She will always be the love of my life. For 22 years we went through life together. We planned on growing old together but she had to leave. I do not know how I will live my life without her.

  2. Lori Kibler

    Wendykay, what can I say. My friend, my confidant, my friend. I miss you so much. I miss your beautiful smile. You were truly special to me. I will always cherish the time we spent together.
    Your friend, Lori

  3. Lynn Marie Orlob-Weimer

    Oh Dear Jarvis and boys, I have been so blessed to have been a part of Wendykay’s life and share in your life together, every milestone. Your marriage, the birth of the boys, and triumphs from hardships. I can’t stop crying. Know that you boys are in my heart and prayers knowing she is in Jesus’ arms and we will all see her again. Much, much love to you.

  4. Lynn Marie Orlob-Weimer

    Dear Wendykay;
    Please don’t be gone. Please let this be some plan to let you know how loved you are. I know I haven’t called or written as much as I should have. I fear people hurting me so much I get scared. I want you to call me and tell me this is a cruel joke. I just can’t stop crying. I was supposed to come out and we would go shopping!!! Or something girls would do, even though we haven’t seen each other in over 20 years, I still think of you so often. Everytime I see a Malibu. Everytime I hear of Minnesota and the weather I picture you at your home, enjoying the snow (or not). Please please don’t be gone. I love you and I am sorry for not calling more. Please don’t be gone.

  5. Peg Marsh

    Wendy was a good friend from my junior high and high school days. Though I’d lost touch with her, she was never forgotten. Even now, her smile and sweetness are what I remember most. She will be truly missed. Please know that you will all be in my prayers as you go through this difficult time. May God bless you and your family with strength and love, and the ability to remember Wendy with more happiness than sorrow.

  6. Arlene Shively

    For nine months I carried you under my heart, now I will carry you in my heart for the rest of my days. My beautiful Babygirl.

    I will remember sewing with you, Pupper and ShuShu, walking to the top of the mountain to see the sun come up, Polly and Peaches, the Beans, shopping arm in arm, trying on hats, the hours we spent on the phone, our memories, our dreams.

    Alan loves you and recalls all the many hours you spent on the phone with him. It was so important that you could take the time to listen to his pain as he came to terms with his blindness. He loved you as his own daughter. You were always so sincerely caring about him and he is praying for the repose of your soul as we all are at this difficult time.

    I believe you are with your Grandpa Ben and all the others in heaven who have gone before us. One day you will look down on me, take my hand and we will be together in the most wonderful place of love and peace . . . and we both will have all the answers to the multitude of questions we have so often pondered. The umbilical cord was never cut between us and our existance continues to beat with one heart. I believe when a child is in the womb, it is the most wonderful place to ever be, dark and warm – no worries. With birth you are thrust into a bright, cold and noisey place that soon becomes the most wonderful of existances. Death is simply passing into a new existance that is even more wonderful than life. We will all come to this place one day, be at peace with everyone and everything, sharing in the promises of God.

    Peace be with you my beautiful Babygirl. I can never replace the emptiness you leave, but I will make sure all those you left will know they are loved and cared for; especially James, Josh and Liam. Jarvis, we have no words to describe the emptiness, but you are in my prayers.

    Peace be with you all who have known WendyKay. Thank you for the kind thoughts and memories you have shared. May God bless you and comfort you. Many of you I do not know, but if you were WendyKay’s friend, you are special to me.

    Mom and Alan

  7. Darlene Jonasson

    Wendy, you are a beautiful soul. I wish I had gotten to know you better. We had so many things in common. You are kind and loving. You’re kids love you, of that I am sure. I am writing all of this in the present tense, because although your body is no longer with us, your spirit is. I have had conversations with you since you have left this earth and am glad that you are at peace and no longer suffering. We will meet again some day and we will have the greatest time, of that I am sure. I truly miss you and I am sure all of those who knew you do too. Keep smiling!

  8. Jarvis Osell

    For 22 years, Wendy and I shared one life, one mind and one soul. Five days after Wendy died, I found online, totally by accident, the song “Help Me” by Johnny Cash. It actually was more like the song found me. It hit me so hard, I think Wendy must have sent it to me. I think she was trying to tell us what she was feeling in the last day and last hours of her life and why she had to leave.

    Wendy’s Pain,

    Oh Lord, help me walk… another mile… just one more mile,
    I’m so tired of walking all alone.
    And Lord, help me to smile… yes another smile… just one more smile,
    I don’t think I can do things on my own anymore.

    I never thought I needed help before,
    I always thought I could get by on my own.
    But now I know, I just can’t take it anymore,
    So with a humble heart and on bended knee Lord, I’m begging you please Lord… For Help.

    So come down Lord… come down to me… yes to me… to lowly me.
    I just need to feel the touch Lord, of your tender hand.
    Release these chains Lord… these chains of darkness,
    Let me see, Oh Lord let me see,
    I just need to see, where I fit, into your master plan.

    I never thought I needed help before,
    I always thought I could get by on my own.
    But now I know, I just can’t take it anymore,
    So with a humble heart and on bended knee Lord, I’m begging you please Lord… For Help.

    I’m begging you please Lord… For Help

    I Love You Babe

  9. Bonnie Cochran Jensen

    Dear Family, I was so sad to hear about WendyKay’s passing. I had just been in touch with her shortly before hoping maybe I could pass along Grandma Cochrans cedar chest to her. I wish I had been more available to her. What got me here was going through old papers and there I found all the works of a Master our family tree she had so thoughtfully put together. What a talent. I am her Aunt Bonnie. Much love to your family.


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