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September 24, 1947 – September 2, 2019

Antoinette Louise “Toni” Steckler Anderson left us all on September 2nd 2019. A memorial of her life and sharing of memories will be held Saturday September 7th, 2019 at The Peterson Chapel in St. Michael, MN at 2:00 p.m. Memorial gifts will be donated to CMT research in Toni’s name. Toni was born at St. Joseph’s Hospital in Dickinson on September 24, 1947 to Edward M. and Doris M. (Wilhelm) Steckler. She graduated from St. Joseph’s Grade School, Trinity High School and Dickinson State College (now DSU). Toni was a career teacher of language, lover of music and all things bright and lively, and lifelong friend to everyone she would meet. After graduating from college she embarked on her career that would bring her countless friends and students forever left with the indelible mark of Toni on their lives. From Larimore and Beach ND to Blaine, MN, Toni spent her entire career bringing her love of foreign languages to children that would cherish her experiences throughout their life. Showing her intrepid confidence, she even navigated classes of students abroad in Spain and Mexico with family in tow. After marriage to Gerald, they welcomed their son Jared into the world in 1978 and moved to Anoka, MN. A more devoted mother there could not be. For the next 40 years she would attend countless concerts, musicals, sports games, and more, bringing as much of the world to her son as she possibly could. Their house in Anoka would become a reflection of her personality. Filled to the brim with the things that gave her joy and inspired memories and treasured moments. To see her collections was to peer inside her mind – often mistaken for clutter – EVERYTHING had its place and all had their meaning. Her love of teaching and music could only be matched by her love for her family. An ever-devoted sister and daughter, Toni spent much of her later years caring for her little sister Bert through the grueling trials of brain cancer, and her father in nursing care. When her son and daughter in-law welcomed Liam to the world and later Noah, Toni discovered her new calling! There was never a major event or the significance of the trivial that she wouldn’t want to hear every last detail about. Her grandkids had become her motivation for existence. Many a lasting memory would be made at the lake, in their homes, or via FaceTime – always with phone in hand to capture the smallest detail of their exploration of this world. From her beloved ND home to Minnesota, Toni defined her life by always doing things her way. Bar tender (yes, that’s right) to teacher, sister to grandmother, daughter to mother, Toni was Toni. Behind the piano or the teacher’s desk, she always sought to liven the mood of wherever she would find herself. Toni was preceded in death by her mother, Doris Mae, her father Edward Martin “Eddie” Steckler, and her sister Roberta Alice “Bert” Steckler. She is survived by her husband Gerald Anderson, Jared (wife ~ Teresa)Anderson, Greenfield, MN, and her beloved grandchildren Liam (8) and Noah (5), and countless friends, relatives, former students and colleagues who will dearly miss her zeal for life, unstoppable storytelling, ability to break into song at a moments notice and dynamic personality. Without a doubt, the world grew a little quieter on Monday. A sassy, loving, spirit left this world to watch and protect us from the next and we will all deeply miss her! In the words of one of her favorite singers, Buddy Holly, let us simply say “Rave On!” Toni – we will carry your spirit and energy with us forever!

12 Guestbook Entries

  1. Diana Mead

    Jared and family. Toni was a wonderful friend. We have not seen each other in some years but social media has kept us in touch. I’ve enjoyed seeing your family through her eyes. She treasured you.

  2. Stefany Grainger

    Toni was my Spanish teacher in high school. She was always so kind and generous with her time. She offered encouraging words on my toughest days and always ended our conversations with a mint from her desk drawer. She introduced me to Frida Kahlo, which would often be a topic of conversation while messaging each other. I was honored to have her at my wedding 15 years ago and have continued to be thankful for her friendship over the years. She will be dearly missed.

  3. Tom and Deb

    I remember the the meals we shared, the friendship and wonderful hospitality Toni always showed toward me. So very sorry Jared for your loss. My mother too died In her sleep but it was without pain or suffering which did bring me some comfort. I hope that can bring some comfort to you also. May her memories bring you peace, and know you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Please call if we can help in any way.

  4. Janell Stradinger

    Oh Toni, I shall remember you fondly. You always had an ear when I needed to talk and you would always include my family in your well wishes. You loved your son with your whole heart and the grandchildren were your golden treasures. You are free now and flying with the angels. God Bless you Jared and your family.

  5. Kathy (HAAG) Pankratz

    Toni was a High school classmate of mine THS 1965. Toni was always so kind and truly wanted to know what all the classmates were up to at our reunions. Saying goodbye is more like saying see you on the other side.

  6. Gordy L. Rutman

    I had the honor of teaching with Toni at Blaine High School. You interestingly, I didn’t get to the really know this fine woman until we’d both retired. We lived in different states and would occasionally connect via FACEBOOK.

    I learned of her great love of music as she shared her son’s accomplishments and her own playing. We share a passion for song.

    Toni would seek my opinion on political matters during these turbulent times. I have been very involved in matters political for many years. She was so engaged and it was obvious she was concerned for her son’s and her grandchildren’s future. She was so unselfish that way.

    Very sorry to hear of her passing! May her memory be a blessing.

  7. Cindy Renner

    I will miss Toni and extend my deepest Sympathy to Jared, Teresa, Liam , and Noah.Be Blessed with Peace.

  8. Jeff Anderson

    Jared those were very inspired words. They brought back fun memories of how much joy she could get out the littlest things sometimes. I can hear her singsongy North Dakota/German voice crying out in pleasure over something she found exciting.

  9. Paulette Kucera

    Toni, Bert, my brother Barry and I were close growing up. I remember spending happy hours together as kids. She was a special lady. I know she’ll be missed.

  10. Jacalyn Hendrickson

    Jared, I met your mother thru your aunt Roberta. They both had a gentle fun loving spirit and I will treasure our memories. Sending my thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

  11. Dori Steffen Clark

    Dear Jared & Family. I am one of Toni’s many cousins, Doris and my Mom Elaine were sisters. Though I hadn’t seen Toni for many years I was happy to be able to keep up with her on fb for several years. I’m missing her already, looking for her posts and comments on mine. When we were young our family traveled to N D each summer to see the family. I always looked forward to seeing the Stecklers! There was always laughter and music. Toni sure could play that piano! Sometimes she and Bert would have a sisterly argument, it could get a little loud but then the laughter would return and it was a happy place, all forgiven and forgotten. She loved North Dakota and it’s beauty. Her frequent posts got me to fall in love with it too, and the wild horses. I miss her. She is not and will not be forgotten. Hugs all around!

  12. Cheri Coffelt

    Dear Ms. Steckler –

    Thank you for teaching Spanish in Larimore – I enjoyed learning a new language.

    Muchas Gracias!


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